Newsflash: I am not perfect! Not even near perfect. As a matter of fact, the closest I will ever get to being perfect is knowing without a shadow of a doubt that I am perfectly imperfect. And so are you (i.e. you are not perfect either). The truth of the matter is simply that we all are perfectly imperfect people. And it would be in the best interest of all of us if we’d remember this truth.
And during those times in our life when we forget this simple truth, life has a way of reminding us every time someone feels the need to point out something about us they feel strongly that we should change. And sometimes, it is us who do the same to others. One of the most difficult things for us to do is to allow other people to just be who and how they are in the world. Especially when who and how they are is annoying to us because of course we know for sure if they did what we suggested for them to do, all would be well in the world. That is until their “other” annoying way of being surfaces.
Of course if who and how they are in the world is placing them in a position of danger or harm to themselves and or others, then by all means let us not hold our tongues. However, if who and how they are in the world bothers us in regards to matters of minimum significance when we consider the big picture of life and living, then let us choose to hold our tongue. Sharing our preference regarding how and what others should, and need to be doing in our opinion is in most cases (i.e. if they didn’t ask for our opinion and they are not our children) not warranted.
Perhaps this is what Carter G. Woodson meant in number 3 of the rules he lived by that says “Lose if need be without squealing.” (Ok, that’s a pretty loose interpretation of what he may have meant but I read about his rules today in a fb post and I liked them and wanted to include them somehow in this blog post. I’m perfectly imperfect I tell you! On a serious note though, let us embrace the freedom of having the courage to let people be who and how they are in the world while we relax in doing the same. Remember when it comes down to it, we really are all one in the same (i.e. perfectly imperfect people).